莫談前任：與伴侶交往六禁忌

每條短信都讓你意亂情迷，你整天都笑臉盈盈，只是迫不及待地渴望重逢佳人。如果是這樣，你很可能仍然處于一段新戀情的蜜月期。盡管一切似乎很完美，如果你不注意從長遠(yuǎn)來看可能會(huì)破壞關(guān)系的事，這段關(guān)系可能會(huì)敗北。

DON'T MOVE TOO FAST
別進(jìn)展太快

It can be tempting to want to blow through the honeymoon stage and quickly settle into a comfortable routine or worse, do something drastic like move in together too soon.
匆忙度過蜜月階段，迅速進(jìn)入更舒適或者糟糕的下一階段，這很有誘惑力，那就做點(diǎn)兒激進(jìn)的事吧，比如過早地同居。

But wanting to spend every second together could be the death knell for your partner - so don't drop your whole life for them.
但想分分秒秒粘在一起可能導(dǎo)致分手，所以別為戀人傾注所有。

Make sure to spend a few nights alone, continue to make time for the things you love and still go out with your friends.
一定要獨(dú)處幾個(gè)晚上，繼續(xù)騰出時(shí)間做你喜歡的事，仍與你朋友出去玩。

It's important to retain a little mystery to keep things exciting, says Meredith Fineman, founder of Fifty First (J)Dates.
初戀50次（交友網(wǎng)）創(chuàng)始人梅雷迪思?法恩曼說，重要的是要保持點(diǎn)神秘，保持住激情。

DON'T ASSUME THEY'RE PERFECT
別把伴侶理想化

In the early days of a new relationship, you always try a little - or a lot - harder to impress your new partner.
新關(guān)系早期，你總或多或少會(huì)更努力地嘗試打動(dòng)你的新伴侶。

But don't expect that they will maintain those standards and give the relationship a bit more time before deciding if they're the one.
但別指望他們會(huì)一直符合這些標(biāo)準(zhǔn)，在決定是否找對(duì)了人之前，給戀情發(fā)展多一點(diǎn)時(shí)間。

Kate Figes, author of books including 'Couples: How We Make Love Last', says it's important to understand and accept that your new partner isn't infallible.
《情侶：我們?nèi)绾窝永m(xù)愛情》的作者凱特?菲格斯說，理解并接受你的伴侶會(huì)犯錯(cuò)這一事實(shí)，這很重要。

DON'T BE POSSESSIVE
占有欲別太強(qiáng)

Clinginess is always a turn-off.
過分依戀往往導(dǎo)致分手。

Just because you're newly dating doesn't mean your partner is obligated to spend all their time with you.
僅因你們初識(shí)并不意味著你的伴侶有義務(wù)為你投入所有時(shí)間。

Expecting (or demanding) too much of their time could signal to them that you're not compatible or that you don't trust them.
期望（或要求）伴侶花大把時(shí)間陪你會(huì)給他們一個(gè)暗示：你不適合或者不信任他們。

DON'T AVOID SERIOUS DISCUSSIONS
別避免嚴(yán)肅的討論

Don't avoid talking about your long-term goals and ambitions: Do you want to get married? Do you want kids?
不要避免談?wù)撃愕拈L遠(yuǎn)目標(biāo)：你想結(jié)婚嗎？你想要孩子嗎？

They don't need to happen on the very first date, but shouldn't be avoided for too long.
不用第一天就闡明這些，可也不要拖太久。

DON'T TALK ABOUT YOUR EXES CONSTANTLY
別經(jīng)常談?wù)撃愕那叭?/strong>