Keeping their distance

Liu doesn't feel the need to maintain constant communication with all of her friends, and she's comfortable with that.

"One of my best friends lives just a few blocks away, but we only meet up once a month. Instead, we comment on each other's posts or send funny messages. I don't expect anything more from it," she says. "It's just easier that way. I don't have to worry about being available all the time."

Liu's experience reflects the growing trend of light socializing, where casual, low-effort interactions, often digital, replace deeper, more traditional forms of connection. Unlike past generations, who relied on face-to-face meetups and long-term emotional investment, today's young people are embracing a more relaxed, noncommittal approach to socializing.

The rise of social media platforms like WeChat, Weibo, Red Note, and Douyin has made this shift even more pronounced. Young people can maintain broad social circles without the pressure of frequent in-person meetings or emotionally demanding conversations.

Yet, light socializing doesn't mean complete disconnection. Liu still meets up with friends and travels with them, but there's an emotional distance that makes these interactions feel more effortless.

"It's about being present without the pressure that often comes with close friendships," she explains.

Despite the seemingly superficial nature of these interactions, Liu believes digital connections can sometimes feel deeper than real-life friendships.

"The internet has given me the chance to meet people who truly resonate with me," she says. Many of her followers share personal stories with her, seeking advice or support — conversations that might never happen in real life.

One follower, a college girl struggling with depression, confided in Liu after watching a video where she spoke about overcoming personal challenges. Liu encouraged the woman to go out and learn something, such as painting. After becoming "online" friends for a year, the woman recovered and sent Liu a painting she had completed.

"It was a memorable and touching experience. In the digital world, people tell me things they may never share with their closest friends," she explains. "There's a kind of sincerity in these exchanges."

For Liu, light socializing isn't about avoiding real relationships — it's about filtering connections to find those who truly align with her energy. Through social media, she has formed friendships, built business connections, and even met her boyfriend. Their relationship began through shared interests at a summit for young professionals, evolving gradually without pressure or expectations.

"Light socializing is about finding people who share your energy. It filters out those who don't resonate with you and minimizes the pressure and burden of socializing," she explains. This process has helped her meet individuals who have contributed to both her personal and professional growth.